Whenever you tell someone you are in fact pregnant and then you follow the response that you're actually pregnant with twins the questions and stories come rolling in. I actually have found people's interest quite enjoyable. I love talking about my twins as an already proud mother, obviously. But I also really enjoy hearing their stories about twins they knew or twins in their family. I don't know that the stories are necessarily going to be any help in preparing me for such a big undertaking, but I always like to ask people how the twins they know have turned out, were they best of friends? did they hate each other? Did they grow up with identity crisis' or were they completely happy being a twin? I've heard the far ends of both spectrums from various people and I suppose there is no way to be sure they don't have a complex about being a twin, but one thing I've said since 6 weeks when we found out we were indeed having twins, was that I really wanted them to find their own identity and that I didn't want them to always think they were the same person because they will each be unique in their own way. Hopefully, as they develop their personalities I'll be able to find things that make them an individual and help them focus on those things. Of course, as much as I imagine how this would work perfectly in my head I know twins tend to have a whole plan of their own, a language of their own, and chances that I can actually emphasize that may be harder than I think. I guess as long as they are happy then I'm happy and as long as they feel equally loved then I'll be doing the best that I can.
The two questions I'm asked most often since the beginning have been:
"Do you know if they are Identical or Fraternal?"
Not yet. Originally we were told that they would be able to tell around 10 weeks, but at our 10 week ultrasound they were unable to tell, but said they will likely be able to tell closer to 16 weeks or so.
"Are they Boys or Girls?"
Good question. I would love to know this answer as well because lets be honest... I'm ready to start getting their room put together, as it sits empty right now. The simple answer is it's still to early to know such a thing, but we should know around 16 weeks, as my team has told me they are willing to look at 16 weeks. A lot of other women have told me their doctors made them wait until 20 weeks and I know that private ultrasounds for early gender reveal are becoming more and more popular, but thankfully the office I go to is willing to take a peek.
Im currently 14 weeks, so just a few more weeks and I might be able to start to answer these questions when people ask me. Hopefully they cooperate for their ultrasound!
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